A story about Alex Hardy's suicide prompted readers to get in touch with their own experiences of circumcision and phimosis

Despite male circumcision being relatively common, it's not something people usually talk openly about. But when a grieving mother explained how her son killed himself after being circumcised, it prompted many men to share their own experiences.

"I read your story this morning and have been crying for hours."

"The same thing happened to me... I don't know why I'm writing this. I'm sorry."

"The article made me feel a bizarre mix of sadness, frustration and relief."

"Finally I can start to make some sense out of my own experience".

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A GRADE-A student killed himself after a botched circumcision left him in constant agony, a heartbreaking final letter revealed.

Alex Hardy, 23, from Cheshire, timed an email to reach his mum 12 hours after he tragically took his own life.

Alex hardy, 23, had deferred university and moved to Canada 

In the heart-breaking note he explained how surgery on his foreskin two years previously had ruined his life.

He described the circumcision operation as “male genital mutilation” and hoped others would avoid his painful path.

Alex wrote: “Know that I went peacefully and am now in a state of peace that was impossible following this mutilation. I died in 2015, not now.

"Where I once had a sexual organ I have now been left with a numb, botched stick. My sexuality has been left in tatters."

Alex had excelled at school with a flair for English and history but decided to move to Canada after visiting on a skiing trip.

Then 18, he deferred from university and moved across the Atlantic - enjoying the country so much he stayed for five years and obtained residency.

Popular with co-workers, Alex had many friends and was known as the “super-smart Brit with impeccable manners”, his mum Lesley Roberts said.

However, while he thrived at work he was struggling with a condition that had plagued him since puberty.

Alex suffered from phimosis, which is where the skin around the penis is too tight to pull back – causing problems for men when having sex or urinating.

Soon after, he went to an urologist who “immediately suggested circumcision”, Alex wrote in his email, a procedure the NHS advises to take as a "last resort".

The then 21-year-old booked himself in for the procedure but suffered constant painful physical issues after, with the head of his penis experiencing constant stimulation.

This stopped Alex from being able to carry out physical activity without pain as well as burning and itching sensations.

He wrote in his email: “Nature knows best - how can chopping off a section of healthy tissue improve nature's evolved design?"

Alex sought medical and psychological help after the operation – but sadly it was not enough to elevate his pain and he took his own life.

Lesley, who used to be a teacher, now hopes to go into schools and speak to young men about sharing their personal problems.

She said: "I think we all know that men don't particularly tend to talk about their problems in the same way that girls do but I think circumcision is very much a taboo subject.

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Two of my physics professors at Queen’s University (Dr. Stewart & Dr. McKee) were the original developers of Positron Emission Tomography (PET) for medical applications. They and a number of other Queen’s physicists also worked on improving the accuracy of functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) for observing metabolic activity within the human body.

As a graduate student working in the Dept. of Epidemiology, I was approached by a group of nurses who were attempting to organize a protest against male infant circumcision in Kingston General Hospital. They said that their observations indicated that babies undergoing the procedure were subjected to significant and inhumane levels of pain that subsequently adversely affected their behaviors. They said that they needed some scientific support for their position. It was my idea to use fMRI and/or PET scanning to directly observe the effects of circumcision on the infant brain.

The operator of the MRI machine in the hospital was a friend of mine, and he agreed to allow us to use the machine for research after normal operational hours. We also found a nurse who was under intense pressure by her husband to have her newborn son circumcised, and she was willing to have her son to be the subject of the study. Her goal was to provide scientific information that would eventually be used to ban male infant circumcision. Since no permission of the ethics committee was required to perform any routine male infant circumcision, we did not feel it was necessary to seek any permission to carry out this study.

We tightly strapped an infant to a traditional plastic “circumstraint” using Velcro restraints. We also completely immobilized the infant’s head using standard surgical tape. The entire apparatus was then introduced into the MRI chamber. Since no metal objects could be used because of the high magnetic fields, the doctor who performed the surgery used a plastic bell with a sterilized obsidian bade to cut the foreskin. No anesthetic was used.

The baby was kept in the machine for several minutes to generate baseline data of the normal metabolic activity in the brain. This was used to compare to the data gathered during and after the surgery. Analysis of the MRI data indicated that the surgery subjected the infant to significant trauma. The greatest changes occurred in the limbic system concentrating in the amygdala and in the frontal and temporal lobes.

A neurologist who saw the results postulated that the data indicated that circumcision affected most intensely the portions of the victim’s brain associated with reasoning, perception and emotions. Follow up tests on the infant one day, one week and one month after the surgery indicated that the child’s brain never returned to its baseline configuration. In other words, the evidence generated by this research indicated that the brain of the circumcised infant was permanently changed by the surgery.

Our problems began when we attempted to publish our findings in the open medical literature. All of the participants in the research including myself were called before the hospital discipline committee and were severely reprimanded. We were told that while male circumcision was legal under all circumstances in Canada, any attempt to study the adverse effects of circumcision was strictly prohibited by the ethical regulations. Not only could we not publish the results of our research, but we also had to destroy all of our results. If we refused to comply, we were all threatened with immediate dismissal and legal action.

I would encourage anyone with access to fMRI and /or PET scanning machines to repeat our research as described above, confirm our results, and then publish the results in the open literature

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